What if the mother doesn’t know the name of the father or
the full name of the father? What if she
only knew his first name, maybe she only saw him one time, one time only and
she knew nothing about his family, or where he went to school, or what he did
for a living? There may not be much
information to work with and the trail may be impossible to follow. But the mother is the key to getting the
information. What she tells you is all
you are going to have to work with. Now
also the mother may know of a friend who introduced her to your father. Knowing
who that friend is might be a good source of information. But you have to ask the mother if she has any
information, that’s where you are going to get the information. It’s not going to exist on a piece of paper
or public record until she gives you the name to look for. When the father and mother first met he may
have told her he was in the military, or that he worked at a certain place,
or where he was from, or something about
his family. She may have a clue, they
may have had a conversation that may have a clue of where he was from or if he
had a big family or a small family, or where he attended school. She just may, without realizing it, have some
information that would help lead to your father. You can ask your mother what she knows about
your father, where did she meet him, was there anyone else there that might
know him? What information can she give
you that will help you find him?
I can tell you this……there was a girl who was looking for her
father and her mother had a sister, and the sister was able to tell the girl
that her mother dated so and so when she was in college. The mother had forgotten about this guy, but
the girl was able to track down her father just because her aunt remembered something. Oftentimes another member of the family may
remember or have some knowledge that maybe the mother forgot, such as where the
person attended school or what the person did for a living. It’s a good idea to ask your grandmother, or
an aunt or uncle, because someone else may have information.
One thing I want everyone to know is not to have unrealistic
expectations. That is so huge. If you have unrealistic expectations, you
could be very disappointed in what you find.
So don’t worry about what you are going to find, the truth is going to
set you free. You won’t have to live
with the unknown any more.
I remember a time when this young man had been searching for
his father for twenty years. His father
had a very common name, John Harris. For
twenty years the son had visited many cities and in each city he called every
John Harris in the phone book, but none were his father. That’s the only way he knew how to
search. When I first met him he brought
me a picture of his father, it was a black and white photograph made in 1945 and
on the back of the picture it had his father’s middle initial John E.
Harris. That was a clue, but when the
son told me his parents were divorced when he was a year old, I knew there was
going to be more information on that divorce record. And sure enough, after twenty years of
searching, all he needed was the divorce record. His father had carried his baby picture for
forty years and when he met his father he welcomed him with open arms. Not every search is going to end this way,
but this one did. The father was very
happy that the son found him.
I know you have a lot of unanswered questions. I also know you need closure. Let me help you find your father. Finding your father will give you the answers
you have been wondering about. It’s
going to give you the closure you need. It
will make your life so much better to know the truth. Let me help you, I can probably find your
father in 30 days or less. Why are you
waiting? Why don’t you let me help
you? I’ll be glad to find your father
for you.
Privacy laws protect certain information, but there are many public records available at public libraries, archive libraries, court houses, the internet, and many public offices. Hiring a professional investigator can save you time and money because they have the knowledge and experience to know how and where to look for information.
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