Recently someone asked me to locate a stalker. In the 1970's the stalker had threatened her life and made her life so miserable that she moved far away from her hometown in hopes the stalker could not or would not find her. When she moved, she left all her family and friends behind but now wanted to return home. She has had some serious medical problems and is now all alone. Before she can return she needs to know where the stalker is located.
It did not take me long to find a trail of the stalker, but was shocked to find that the stalker died in the 1980's. The victim of the stalker had been hiding and in fear for many years. Had she known the stalker was dead, her life could have been different. She could have returned to her hometown many years ago. She would have had less stress and maybe avoided a heart attack. Maybe she was afraid of the unknown or in denial.....but it might have made her life better if she had checked on the whereabouts of the stalker sooner.
When I contacted the victim to tell her the stalker is deceased she was immediately relieved. She is now planning to return to her hometown and will try to find some old friends.
If you or someone you know is living with the unknown or in fear of someone and you need to know where that person is, regardless of the situation or the outcome, I believe the truth will set you free.
Tuesday, November 25, 2014
Thursday, October 23, 2014
Victims of Divorce
Sadly in the U.S. 50% of all marriages are ending in divorce and 50% of all children are being raised by a single parent. 50% of these children may never know the absent parent - primarily their father.
Fatherless children are at very high risk of becoming a statistic:
85% will more than likely have a behavioral problem
71% will more than likely become a high school dropout
63% will more than likely commit suicide
70% will more than likely be in a juvenile institution
90% will more than likely run away and become homeless
80% will more than likely commit rape, due to displaced anger
85% will more than likely end up in prison
Here is the problem:
2 out of 5 children in the U.S. do not live with their father.
What is the solution?
Fatherless children are at very high risk of becoming a statistic:
85% will more than likely have a behavioral problem
71% will more than likely become a high school dropout
63% will more than likely commit suicide
70% will more than likely be in a juvenile institution
90% will more than likely run away and become homeless
80% will more than likely commit rape, due to displaced anger
85% will more than likely end up in prison
Here is the problem:
2 out of 5 children in the U.S. do not live with their father.
What is the solution?
Wednesday, October 22, 2014
Researching Your Ancestors
There is so much information available to trace your ancestors. The search can be extremely time consuming and is sometimes frustrating, but when you find each piece of your family puzzle it is such a thrill.
Of course not everyone has much information to begin with......especially someone who was abandoned or someone who was adopted and is unable to obtain their identity.
Having a correct name to search for is vital. Knowing that not everyone spelled their names the same way allows you to search by sound. Soundex is a coding system that was developed so that you can find a surname even though it may have been recorder under various spellings.
If you are serious about searching for your ancestors you might want to sign up for a subscription to Ancestry.com. Ancestry.com has some free searches, but more information is available if you are a member or subscriber.
Understand that census records are only released every ten years and the last one released was 1940. Current census records are not available until they are seventy years old.
The Social Security system was originally The Social Security Act which was signed by President Franklin D. Roosevelt on 8/14/35. Taxes were collected for the first time in January 1937 and regular monthly benefits started in January, 1940. Not everyone paid into Social Security...there were other pension funds for people who worked for the government, people who worked for the railroad, and of course farmers and others who were self-employed may or may not have paid into Social Security. There is a Social Security master death index available for those who paid into Social Security and their family received a death benefit when they died.
Finding a death record can be helpful in tracing your ancestors. It can lead to other information including their survivors.
Giving your family the gift of knowing about their history and ancestors is priceless. If you have not done this, or don't have time to do this, why not hire a professional to do the search for you?
Of course not everyone has much information to begin with......especially someone who was abandoned or someone who was adopted and is unable to obtain their identity.
Having a correct name to search for is vital. Knowing that not everyone spelled their names the same way allows you to search by sound. Soundex is a coding system that was developed so that you can find a surname even though it may have been recorder under various spellings.
If you are serious about searching for your ancestors you might want to sign up for a subscription to Ancestry.com. Ancestry.com has some free searches, but more information is available if you are a member or subscriber.
Understand that census records are only released every ten years and the last one released was 1940. Current census records are not available until they are seventy years old.
The Social Security system was originally The Social Security Act which was signed by President Franklin D. Roosevelt on 8/14/35. Taxes were collected for the first time in January 1937 and regular monthly benefits started in January, 1940. Not everyone paid into Social Security...there were other pension funds for people who worked for the government, people who worked for the railroad, and of course farmers and others who were self-employed may or may not have paid into Social Security. There is a Social Security master death index available for those who paid into Social Security and their family received a death benefit when they died.
Finding a death record can be helpful in tracing your ancestors. It can lead to other information including their survivors.
Giving your family the gift of knowing about their history and ancestors is priceless. If you have not done this, or don't have time to do this, why not hire a professional to do the search for you?
Fatherless Children
Have you ever thought that there may be a pattern to why kids turn to drugs or alcohol, or why kids have behavioral problems, or why kids run away or drop out of school? Have you ever thought about crime statistics? Have you ever heard of a cry for help? Instead of trying to figure out who to blame for all the problems we need to figure out what to do to prevent the problems.
Some of the main problems with society today stems from the fact that 50% of all marriages are ending in divorce and 50% of all children in the U.S. are being raised by a single parent, and 50% of these children may never know the absent parent - primarily their father. I don't mean that all children who are raised without a father will have the same problems. But the chances are more likely that children being raised by a single parent will end up home alone while the parent works. Without a role model, discipline, or supervision, these children will more likely have some serious problems. Who is teaching them about respect, religion, and responsibility? Does anyone care what happens to these kids?
Kids don't run away from a happy home. They run away because they are abused, unloved, or feel unwanted.
These statistics of fatherless children are alarming:
63% - Suicide
85% - Behavioral Problems
90% - Homeless & Runaways
71% - High School Dropouts
80% - Commit Rape due to Displaced Anger
70% - Juvenile Institutions
85% - Prison
Alcohol & Drug Problems
Greater and earlier sexual activity
Boys are more likely to have confused identities
Girls are more likely to become pregnant
Boys have more aggressive behavior
Girls have more anxiety and depression
More antisocial behavior
Poorer educational performance/school suspensions
2 out of 5 children in the U.S. do not live with their father
For information on how to find a father:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDFXAxAvDEYlcUc7K0SnKxQ/feed
Some of the main problems with society today stems from the fact that 50% of all marriages are ending in divorce and 50% of all children in the U.S. are being raised by a single parent, and 50% of these children may never know the absent parent - primarily their father. I don't mean that all children who are raised without a father will have the same problems. But the chances are more likely that children being raised by a single parent will end up home alone while the parent works. Without a role model, discipline, or supervision, these children will more likely have some serious problems. Who is teaching them about respect, religion, and responsibility? Does anyone care what happens to these kids?
Kids don't run away from a happy home. They run away because they are abused, unloved, or feel unwanted.
These statistics of fatherless children are alarming:
63% - Suicide
85% - Behavioral Problems
90% - Homeless & Runaways
71% - High School Dropouts
80% - Commit Rape due to Displaced Anger
70% - Juvenile Institutions
85% - Prison
Alcohol & Drug Problems
Greater and earlier sexual activity
Boys are more likely to have confused identities
Girls are more likely to become pregnant
Boys have more aggressive behavior
Girls have more anxiety and depression
More antisocial behavior
Poorer educational performance/school suspensions
2 out of 5 children in the U.S. do not live with their father
For information on how to find a father:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDFXAxAvDEYlcUc7K0SnKxQ/feed
Adoption Records - Non-Identifying Information
*Norma Tillman is the author of: "The Adoption Searcher's Handbook". In the 1990's she became a lobbyist at the Tennessee Legislature and was successful in having the adoption laws changed, however it was several years later that another group of lobbyists were successful in having new laws for Open Records. Tennessee is one of six states that now have "Open Records".
Some jurisdictions are more restrictive about the release of information from adoption records. New York, Oklahoma, and Rhode Island require the person seeking non-identifying information to register with the State adoption registry. In Pennsylvania, non-identifying information is available through a
Some jurisdictions are more restrictive about the release of information from adoption records. New York, Oklahoma, and Rhode Island require the person seeking non-identifying information to register with the State adoption registry. In Pennsylvania, non-identifying information is available through a
registry or the court or agency that handled the adoption. Guam requires a party to petition the court before any information can be released.
Non-identifying information generally includes medical and health information about the child and the child’s birth family at the time of the adoptive placement. Alabama, Illinois, Kansas, Maryland, Minnesota, Mississippi, and Wyoming statutes allow adoptive parents to request that the State adoption registry contact birth parents when additional health information is medically necessary. In Georgia, any medical information about the birth family that is received by the department or placing agency must be provided to the adult adoptee.
Child Welfare Information Gateway.
Adoption Records - Obtaining Identifying Information
*Norma Tillman is the author of: "The Adoption Searcher's Handbook". In the 1990's she became a lobbyist at the Tennessee Legislature and was successful in having the adoption laws changed, however it was several years later that another group of lobbyists were successful in having new laws for Open Records. Tennessee is one of six states that now have "Open Records".
REQUESTING IDENTIFYING INFORMATION
Identifying information is information from the disclosure of adoption records or elsewhere that may lead to the positive identification of birth parents, the adopted person, or other birth relatives.
Identifying information may include current or past names of the person, addresses, employment, or other similar records or information. Statutes in nearly all States permit the release of identifying information when the person whose information is sought has consented to the release. (4)
If consent is not on file with the appropriate entity, the information may not be released without a court order documenting good cause to release the information. A person seeking a court order must be able to demonstrate by clear and convincing evidence that there is a compelling reason for disclosure that outweighs maintaining the confidentiality of a party to an adoption. (5)
(4) New Jersey, the District of Columbia, American Samoa, and Guam require a court
order for release of identifying information. The Virgin Islands requires a court order for
release of information to any person other than the adult adopted person. Statutes in
Puerto Rico require a court order for release of any information from the adoption records
to interested parties.
(5) A compelling reason might include, for example, a serious medical condition requiring
a blood relative or genetic link, or access to medical records.
This article was originally published by the Child Welfare Information Gateway.
The Rights of Unmarried Fathers
The Rights of Unmarried Fathers
In recent decades, the significant percentage of births to unmarried parents (1) has led to an increased
focus on the fathers of these children. Referred to as alleged, presumed, reputed, or putative fathers, many of them seek recognition of their legal rights and expanded roles in raising their children.
Constitutional Rights
Historically, unmarried fathers have had fewer rights with regard to their children than either
unwed mothers or married parents. Over the past several decades, unmarried fathers have challenged
the termination of their parental rights under the Fourteenth Amendment in cases in which birth
mothers relinquished their children for adoption. In a series of cases involving unmarried fathers, the U.S. Supreme Court affirmed the constitutional protection of such a father’s parental rights when he has established a substantial relationship with his child. The court found that the existence of a biological link between a child and an unmarried father gives the father the opportunity to establish a substantial relationship, which it defined as the father’s commitment to the responsibilities of parenthood, as demonstrated by being involved or attempting to be involved in the child’s upbringing.(2)
(1) Births to unmarried women have made up more than 40 percent of total U.S. births
each year since 2008 according to the National Vital Statistics Reports from the Centers on
Disease Control and Prevention (see Table C, page 9, at http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nvsr/
nvsr62/nvsr62_01.pdf).
(2) Stanley v. Illinois, 405 U.S. 645 (1972); Quilloin v. Walcott, 434 U.S. 246 (1978)
More information:
https://www.childwelfare.gov/systemwide/laws_policies/statutes/putative.cfm
To find statute information (laws) for a particular State, go to:
https://www.childwelfare.gov/systemwide/laws_policies/state/
This article was originally published by the Child Welfare Information Gateway.
In recent decades, the significant percentage of births to unmarried parents (1) has led to an increased
focus on the fathers of these children. Referred to as alleged, presumed, reputed, or putative fathers, many of them seek recognition of their legal rights and expanded roles in raising their children.
Constitutional Rights
Historically, unmarried fathers have had fewer rights with regard to their children than either
unwed mothers or married parents. Over the past several decades, unmarried fathers have challenged
the termination of their parental rights under the Fourteenth Amendment in cases in which birth
mothers relinquished their children for adoption. In a series of cases involving unmarried fathers, the U.S. Supreme Court affirmed the constitutional protection of such a father’s parental rights when he has established a substantial relationship with his child. The court found that the existence of a biological link between a child and an unmarried father gives the father the opportunity to establish a substantial relationship, which it defined as the father’s commitment to the responsibilities of parenthood, as demonstrated by being involved or attempting to be involved in the child’s upbringing.(2)
(1) Births to unmarried women have made up more than 40 percent of total U.S. births
each year since 2008 according to the National Vital Statistics Reports from the Centers on
Disease Control and Prevention (see Table C, page 9, at http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nvsr/
nvsr62/nvsr62_01.pdf).
(2) Stanley v. Illinois, 405 U.S. 645 (1972); Quilloin v. Walcott, 434 U.S. 246 (1978)
More information:
https://www.childwelfare.gov/systemwide/laws_policies/statutes/putative.cfm
To find statute information (laws) for a particular State, go to:
https://www.childwelfare.gov/systemwide/laws_policies/state/
This article was originally published by the Child Welfare Information Gateway.
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